I'm now a woman, a woman who has many health issues that get in the way of what I'm most experienced for job wise. While I know that I am going to keep my job at Panera, I also know that my body isn't as fast nor as functional as it used to be. As I worked on Friday for 10 hours, the day went by so slow, and we were so busy. The aches and pains became more unbearable as the day progressed and a lot of why was because all I did was walk around in circles, clean up dishes, wipe down tables, take out trash, spot sweep the carpets, mopped the floor, and made sure a lot of things were in order. That being said, I honestly was on my feet for 9.5 hours non-stop. I took a 30 minute break at nearly the beginning of my shift so that made it all the more challenging to have the shift go by quickly. Knowing that I had to be on my feet for 7 hours non-stop til the end of my shift was enough to drain me completely. The afternoon came and I swear I just kept counting down the minutes and it was so difficult to see that somehow after cleaning 40-50 tables, taking out 3 trashcans full, cleaning the bathrooms, brewing coffees', and bringing back about 60 plates and 20+ coffee cups, only 30 minutes had passed by. It was insanity, you'd think with 900$ being brought in every 20 minutes on average that the time would fly by! Nope, not this time. It seemed no matter how busy we were, time had gone by slowly there. I worked all of last week, like 4 days total and every shift was soooooo slow.
At the end of my scheduled shift I was even reluctantly let go by my GM. While I know I probably should have stayed as he wished me to, I just couldn't do it. I literally flew out of the door to go home when I told him I couldn't stay any longer past my shift and didn't turn back! In a way I felt bad for just up and leaving, but in another way my body had had it at that point. And I was so tired also. I had been there since 4am and it was already 2pm. 10 hour shifts are brutal on my body now, and I've just now learned that.
I thought that I would have been able to fulfill my duties and kick ass at this job but honestly I feel so damn dumb when it comes to the system to ring things in on. It's not a Macros system, in which I'm used to, it's something completely different. I worked the register for one day and felt SO disabling to the team. The person who was "training" me was so much faster and when I asked for something she'd just go in and tap it like it was just staring me right in the face. The people are really nice though, I will say that. Everyone I work with is super helpful and have great vibes about their job. Of course there will always be one person you just don't click with, which I do have, however it's not enough to make my job miserable.
So as it is right now, I'm still looking into the medical field for a job because I'm more comfortable in something healthcare vs. something I'm trained in due to extreme experience. I'm in hopes that with all of the applications I turn in, I'll be considered for a job that'll allow me to grow within the medical field. It's hard to have experience when you've been trained in something completely different and finding that happy medium is quite difficult. I mean, I have certifications that are something that the medical field looks for but it's just the lack of experience that hurts me most. There are times I wish I knew someone on the inside so that I could land some type of job that would give me some kind of peace. It's unfortunate for me too because with the majors I've looked into, I've not been happy with them. I just know that ultimately I want to have the opportunity to work with people who are in need. I've always known that I've wanted that, I guess I'm just one step closer to finding out who I am by knowing that the help I want to provide is within the healthcare industry.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
So many people think of this holiday as a bunch of nothingness. I hate that this holiday is so underplayed. I've always LOVED Thanksgiving and find that Thanksgiving shouldn't just be one day out of the year, but every day of the year. If you can't find one thing within the day to give Thanks for, then you need to change your way of living. I love to cook on Thanksgiving, listen to what everyone is thankful for, watch football, and just all out relax when I can on such a day. It's hard to really get the family off on the same day anymore and we're all in such a hustle and bustle to get things done that we don't have the chance to think about how good so many of us have it.
Over the past year I've really grown to find out who I am as an individual. I was attempting to mold myself into a profession that was not who I am ultimately. It showed it wasn't who I am by a subtle "gesture" and it allowed me to move forward and find that I'm so much happier with other things that have presented themselves to me along the way.
My list of things I'm thankful for is so long that it really makes it hard to sum it up in few words. Regardless, I'm going to try anyhow. I am thankful for my family, my husband, my husband's family, my friends who are like family, my animals, my house, my friends, my health (even if it's rocky from time to time), my jobs, the ability to have electric, heat, water, cleaned clothes, dried clothes, warm clothes, a pillow to rest my head on, a blanket to cover my body as I sleep, medication to help heal the sickness of my daughter, my husband's job, my husband's dedication to making our lives as a family better, Craigslist for all of the animals I've rescued from there, facebook for all of the family and friends I can keep in touch with, thrift stores so that I can give away and receive that in which is given away by others in hard times, a warm coat so that when I'm working I can keep from getting cold, my truck so that I can maintain both of my jobs, the ability to give and not look to receive back, the list goes on and on I tell you! lol
Today I was able to give someone a meal for a change. I went delivering my route with D and Claire on Saturday of last week and ran into this little old lady who loved to talk! I accidently spooked this lil' ol' lady while delivering to her street. She is a DND (do no deliver) and I used her side steps to get up to surface so that I could deliver to her neighbor. She didn't see me coming and I spooked her. She was raking leaves and she practically jumped out from her skin. She was the sweetest old lady I've had the opportunity to meet, aside from D's grandmom. We stood outside for about an hour talking about health and her daughters and her not being able to travel for Thanksgiving because her doctors' orders. She has heart problems and was told she was forbiddened from driving up to Dayton because of her health problems.So we talked for a little while longer and she stated that she would be popping in a microwave banquet meal and having her Thanksgiving at home. So, I thought immediately about how many people had helped me in the past and jumped at the chance to bring her Thanksgiving dinner. I wanted to surprise her so I didn't say anything but I immediately spoke of the idea to Derrick. Today I made a HUGE dinner and had PLENTY of left overs and made her a plate as I finished cooking! I went up after our family dinner, to her house, knocked and she peeked through her door window and opened up. I then wished her a Happy Thanksgiving and told her that she has done so much for others in her life that it was time that someone do something for her and told her that she doesn't deserve eating a banquet meal from the freezer and that she, even though by herself should eat homemade dinner! She was in tears of joy. Thanking me over and over for taking the time out to make her dinner and bring it to her. She was so touched and then we just stood there and talked and talked for an hour or so. She and I were about to part ways as she said "I'm going to be chowing down on what you brought me!" That made me so happy! :) Knowing that I was able to make someone smile on a day like today makes me feel so good!
Well, I'm about to head to bed because of crazy ass Black Friday celebrators! Gotta be at work at 4am and am scheduled til 2pm. Ick! Oh well, money is money... lol
Again, Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!
Over the past year I've really grown to find out who I am as an individual. I was attempting to mold myself into a profession that was not who I am ultimately. It showed it wasn't who I am by a subtle "gesture" and it allowed me to move forward and find that I'm so much happier with other things that have presented themselves to me along the way.
My list of things I'm thankful for is so long that it really makes it hard to sum it up in few words. Regardless, I'm going to try anyhow. I am thankful for my family, my husband, my husband's family, my friends who are like family, my animals, my house, my friends, my health (even if it's rocky from time to time), my jobs, the ability to have electric, heat, water, cleaned clothes, dried clothes, warm clothes, a pillow to rest my head on, a blanket to cover my body as I sleep, medication to help heal the sickness of my daughter, my husband's job, my husband's dedication to making our lives as a family better, Craigslist for all of the animals I've rescued from there, facebook for all of the family and friends I can keep in touch with, thrift stores so that I can give away and receive that in which is given away by others in hard times, a warm coat so that when I'm working I can keep from getting cold, my truck so that I can maintain both of my jobs, the ability to give and not look to receive back, the list goes on and on I tell you! lol
Today I was able to give someone a meal for a change. I went delivering my route with D and Claire on Saturday of last week and ran into this little old lady who loved to talk! I accidently spooked this lil' ol' lady while delivering to her street. She is a DND (do no deliver) and I used her side steps to get up to surface so that I could deliver to her neighbor. She didn't see me coming and I spooked her. She was raking leaves and she practically jumped out from her skin. She was the sweetest old lady I've had the opportunity to meet, aside from D's grandmom. We stood outside for about an hour talking about health and her daughters and her not being able to travel for Thanksgiving because her doctors' orders. She has heart problems and was told she was forbiddened from driving up to Dayton because of her health problems.So we talked for a little while longer and she stated that she would be popping in a microwave banquet meal and having her Thanksgiving at home. So, I thought immediately about how many people had helped me in the past and jumped at the chance to bring her Thanksgiving dinner. I wanted to surprise her so I didn't say anything but I immediately spoke of the idea to Derrick. Today I made a HUGE dinner and had PLENTY of left overs and made her a plate as I finished cooking! I went up after our family dinner, to her house, knocked and she peeked through her door window and opened up. I then wished her a Happy Thanksgiving and told her that she has done so much for others in her life that it was time that someone do something for her and told her that she doesn't deserve eating a banquet meal from the freezer and that she, even though by herself should eat homemade dinner! She was in tears of joy. Thanking me over and over for taking the time out to make her dinner and bring it to her. She was so touched and then we just stood there and talked and talked for an hour or so. She and I were about to part ways as she said "I'm going to be chowing down on what you brought me!" That made me so happy! :) Knowing that I was able to make someone smile on a day like today makes me feel so good!
Well, I'm about to head to bed because of crazy ass Black Friday celebrators! Gotta be at work at 4am and am scheduled til 2pm. Ick! Oh well, money is money... lol
Again, Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!
Sunday, November 13, 2011
That in which...
That in which is to good to be true, usually should be considered as such. My sighs of relief from last week have quickly changed to rages of anger. Abercrombie immediately started pulling bullshit with me and cut hours. I was supposed to start last week but they pushed that to Monday, and well, I got a phone call from the mgr. on Friday and said instead of coming in at 7a on Monday, to come in at 9a. Not to mention I was informed that the hours are not guaranteed, I would have to be on call and expected to come in at ANY moment when the season does begin to pick up, I was hired on as seasonal only, my family CAN'T use my discount, and to top it all off, they switch my shift so that I have to drive in during rush hour which would take a minimum of 45 minutes ONE way! Yeah so.... I'm not going in, they can KMA! I am pursuing other options and have an interview tomorrow at 11:30 for a first shift job. Plus it's damn likely that I'll be working MUCH closer to my house if I land a job tomorrow. Also, my current mgr. is working on making me stay a bit more patient and with me staying patient, he's going to keep his eyes and ears open for positions that open up. I like my current job, and look to stay at it, no matter where I get hired. So if there are more openings, I will just stay there for the long term. It works out pretty well for me and my family anyhow.
Well, I'm off to get some dinner. I just wanted to update so that people weren't thinking I'm still happy go lucky about Abercrombie.
Well, I'm off to get some dinner. I just wanted to update so that people weren't thinking I'm still happy go lucky about Abercrombie.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Big sigh's of relief
Let me just start by saying, today has been one of those days where I can just inhale and exhale w/out feeling like I'm going to be so overloaded that I can barely stand it.
I got a job last week with Abercrombie and Fitch! I am a processor within the warehouse and have my orientation tomorrow afternoon. I hadn't formally really announced that on here but I have been so busy with tying up loose ends that I haven't had much time to do so. So, tomorrow I have orientation and will likely start working on Thursday, my regularly scheduled time which is 7a-3p, Monday through Friday. Wow, a set schedule! A schedule that allows me to be here for my child in her time of need instead of a job that requires evenings all of the time. I'm making decent money through Abercrombie, plus the discounts that come along with it, which I will know further in detail how they work out soon. I placed my brother on the list of receivers for this discount so that he can reap in the rewards too. That's a huge thing to me. I've never worked in a place where I could have anyone other than myself listed for the discount within the company before. I'm really looking forward to this change. I think it's better for me than being in a medical office right now. I was lucky enough to get into the company because of a friend whom I met through the kick-ass girl I worked at from UPS. We went out for Happy Hour one night and all had a great time and have been in touch ever since. Autumn informed me that they had open positions at her job (Abercrombie) and that I should come in and fill out an online application in the warehouse. When I went in I found out that they were having open interviews! That was a HUGE step for me because I had no idea. There were several classes before us (the class) and a lot of the positions had already been filled. I wasn't optimistic about getting a first shift, but I figured I'd give it a shot and work there if it was meant to be. So we had a group interview where everyone within the class was being interviewed by 2 managers in a lunch room setting. We all sat around this table as they threw question after question at us to see how we'd react. I must say, I hate being put on the spot with difficult questions, but I was able to pull off some pretty good answers, thanks to my Medical Assisting Program that I was previously in. Many questions were about how I had reacted in the past about certain topics that I was a firm believer in and how I didn't back down because of my beliefs. Well, that's an obvious program to refer to, because in honesty, I really stepped up and didn't put up with many aspects within that program and I didn't care if others pinned me as wrong for believing such things because it was my choice, my belief, and those are two things you can NOT take from this gal. When he went around to ask which shift would best suite us, I told him either 4 days a week 1st shift or 5 days a week 1st shift, but nothing other than that because of my daughter. He explained prior to allowing people to share when they'd be able to work that first shift if VERY limited because many people wish to have that schedule due to other priorities. I was one who couldn't picture myself away from my daughter for the evenings and worry about her eating, showering, doing her homework, taking care of the animals, etc, so I was very honest about my intentions and they granted that for me. So, I have a friggen set schedule! I am more thrilled by this than anything else. The fact that I can still have a life and take care of things needed around my house and hold down a 40 hour a week job is GREAT to me! Plus overtime is allowed! How crazy is that word, now a days? That's like impossible to hear anymore, unless everyone got laid off or the world was ending.
So that's new job related information.
Onto my current job with Columbus Dispatch. I have given up my Wednesday/Thursday route. I think this is best! With the scheduled hours I'll be committed to with Abercrombie, I couldn't think my ability to get the midweek delivery done properly. Sure, I could go out there and just wing the hell out of the route and probably take a chance of messing it up to get it all delivered by 6p on Thursday, but honestly, I don't want to take the chance of losing my job because of being too tired or just too rushed. So, last week was my last Wednesday/Thursday delivery. I gave my 30 days last week but my manager found someone who can start on the route tomorrow, so I don't have to live-out the 30 days because someone else was willing to take it over for me quicker than my 30 days! They signed the contract last night and start tomorrow, thank goodness! I'll keep my Saturday delivery route because I think it's important to keep myself active and this is something that will allow me to do so. Plus I really like the Saturday delivery route because I'm less constricted on time frames in regards to delivery times. I get all of my supplies delivered to my house on Thursday and then I'm able to package them Thursday night, Friday night, and deliver them on Saturday and Sunday. Those are much broader time lines for me that don't overload myself too much.
Okay, so that's all of my job situations that are happening.
Now onto school. I have decided to drop all of my classes today so that I don't have to worry about overloading myself with concern to drop them later. I hadn't dropped them as of yet because I was concerned about financial aid and me having to find a job to repay my loans. But, now that I've found a job that I intend on sticking with for a while, I feel comfortable with dropping everything and walking away without any kind of worries! With keeping my Saturday route, just working 2 weeks there will pay a monthly payment for my student loans, which is my incentive to keeping my Saturday route.
Okay, so school and work has been touched on.... Now lets talk about Claire.
I had a conference with Claire's homeroom teacher last week and it was quite eye opening. Her grades looked pretty good on paper, but well, that's not the entire case that's been going on. Claire has been withholding homework that she is to be taking home daily and return the day after. She claims to have forgotten to take the assignments home, however, these assignments added up to nearly 2 weeks worth of homework that were stored in her desk. This does not include the homework that she HAS brought home. She has been having a lot of behavioral problems in school and we need to nip them in the butt now.
On Halloween, Claire was sent home with a note from her Reading teacher in regards to Claire decided to write on the inside of someone's desk instead of participating in the reading that she was supposed to take part in. She took the person's marker and began writing within the desk. The teacher took recess away but I wasn't going to stop there! Claire had lied about having the note (or anything) in her book bag when she came home from school and when I decided to look through her book bag she quickly responded with "I got into trouble today." She went on to say that it was due to talking. I later read the letter and it stated that she had written in a desk during Reading. Man, was I ticked?! I think I was more angered by her lie than the actual act of doing the, what I consider, vandalizing of the desk. After I read the note, I wrote to the teacher, stating that Claire needs to be punished for what she did by cleaning all of the desks within the classroom and that loss of recess doesn't cut it! I asked Claire that evening, "When were you going to show me that note, since it needed to be signed?" She responded with "After we went Trick or Treating." Infuriated was an understatement at this point! I ended up dropping off the letter to her school directly because I did not trust that Claire would turn it in. Needless to say, she did not go Trick or Treating that night and stood in the corner for what would have been the time going trick or treating. So, yesterday she was kept after school to clean all of the desks within that classroom. Boy, she was an unhappy camper by this, but I told her perhaps next time she'll take this into consideration next time she thinks it's necessary to act badly in the classroom.
She has been punished for many acts of lying but we have worked on a new reward which will make her think twice about lying... This includes going to Sea World on her 10th birthday! She's in love with Dolphins and Orca's and additional to the fun, it's educational! So, we as a family sat down and spoke about what needs to be improved on, not only from her, but from us as parents and I wrote up a contract last night for both her and us as parents so that she sees what she has to work toward and so that we can stick to actually doing something about improving her lying and our reactions to them. So this house is going to be changing pretty rapidly and I think overall it's going to work out for the best. However, if Claire has one slip up, we're taking the trip away from her. In the meantime between now and the trip, she will have the opportunity to earn many other great things. Things really need to change here at the Eshenbaugh household because if it doesn't our communication level is going to be thrown down the crapper and that's not fair to any of us. The trust level has to be rebuilt and we need to show that we can confide in one another instead of have the constant fear of what will happen if things ARE shared.
Thankfully we have a great family member who is easy to talk to about things like this because she's been there and is also a teacher. These things have been very helpful. Plus I have a friend who is going through the same stages with her daughter(s) and we're able to discuss our horror stories and success stories too. With those people here to help, I know that we can work toward a successful future. Because face it, we're new at this and Claire is an only child who is easily manipulated by older kids so she's able to "fit in". We are going to work long and hard at making things work better for all of us.
With that being stated, Claire has been taken out of Swim and Tae Kwon Do so that we can take the time she would've been in the classes for her additional homework and study time. They have a website where she's able to test her skills and improve on them as needed. I think this will help improve her scores in school and also build her confidence levels within the classroom. Once she's back on track, she will go back into the extracurricular activities, but for now we need to work on improving her skills in the classroom. Her and I will take some time out to practice swimming, but on our own times, instead of scheduled times. With my Wednesday night/Thursday route, this is something we can manage in once she's done her homework.
Things are getting in order, and there's no better time than the present to make everything work out great for us as a family!
Alright, I think I've touched on every topic there is to touch on that I've left everyone out in the dark about.
Happy Tuesday everyone!
I got a job last week with Abercrombie and Fitch! I am a processor within the warehouse and have my orientation tomorrow afternoon. I hadn't formally really announced that on here but I have been so busy with tying up loose ends that I haven't had much time to do so. So, tomorrow I have orientation and will likely start working on Thursday, my regularly scheduled time which is 7a-3p, Monday through Friday. Wow, a set schedule! A schedule that allows me to be here for my child in her time of need instead of a job that requires evenings all of the time. I'm making decent money through Abercrombie, plus the discounts that come along with it, which I will know further in detail how they work out soon. I placed my brother on the list of receivers for this discount so that he can reap in the rewards too. That's a huge thing to me. I've never worked in a place where I could have anyone other than myself listed for the discount within the company before. I'm really looking forward to this change. I think it's better for me than being in a medical office right now. I was lucky enough to get into the company because of a friend whom I met through the kick-ass girl I worked at from UPS. We went out for Happy Hour one night and all had a great time and have been in touch ever since. Autumn informed me that they had open positions at her job (Abercrombie) and that I should come in and fill out an online application in the warehouse. When I went in I found out that they were having open interviews! That was a HUGE step for me because I had no idea. There were several classes before us (the class) and a lot of the positions had already been filled. I wasn't optimistic about getting a first shift, but I figured I'd give it a shot and work there if it was meant to be. So we had a group interview where everyone within the class was being interviewed by 2 managers in a lunch room setting. We all sat around this table as they threw question after question at us to see how we'd react. I must say, I hate being put on the spot with difficult questions, but I was able to pull off some pretty good answers, thanks to my Medical Assisting Program that I was previously in. Many questions were about how I had reacted in the past about certain topics that I was a firm believer in and how I didn't back down because of my beliefs. Well, that's an obvious program to refer to, because in honesty, I really stepped up and didn't put up with many aspects within that program and I didn't care if others pinned me as wrong for believing such things because it was my choice, my belief, and those are two things you can NOT take from this gal. When he went around to ask which shift would best suite us, I told him either 4 days a week 1st shift or 5 days a week 1st shift, but nothing other than that because of my daughter. He explained prior to allowing people to share when they'd be able to work that first shift if VERY limited because many people wish to have that schedule due to other priorities. I was one who couldn't picture myself away from my daughter for the evenings and worry about her eating, showering, doing her homework, taking care of the animals, etc, so I was very honest about my intentions and they granted that for me. So, I have a friggen set schedule! I am more thrilled by this than anything else. The fact that I can still have a life and take care of things needed around my house and hold down a 40 hour a week job is GREAT to me! Plus overtime is allowed! How crazy is that word, now a days? That's like impossible to hear anymore, unless everyone got laid off or the world was ending.
So that's new job related information.
Onto my current job with Columbus Dispatch. I have given up my Wednesday/Thursday route. I think this is best! With the scheduled hours I'll be committed to with Abercrombie, I couldn't think my ability to get the midweek delivery done properly. Sure, I could go out there and just wing the hell out of the route and probably take a chance of messing it up to get it all delivered by 6p on Thursday, but honestly, I don't want to take the chance of losing my job because of being too tired or just too rushed. So, last week was my last Wednesday/Thursday delivery. I gave my 30 days last week but my manager found someone who can start on the route tomorrow, so I don't have to live-out the 30 days because someone else was willing to take it over for me quicker than my 30 days! They signed the contract last night and start tomorrow, thank goodness! I'll keep my Saturday delivery route because I think it's important to keep myself active and this is something that will allow me to do so. Plus I really like the Saturday delivery route because I'm less constricted on time frames in regards to delivery times. I get all of my supplies delivered to my house on Thursday and then I'm able to package them Thursday night, Friday night, and deliver them on Saturday and Sunday. Those are much broader time lines for me that don't overload myself too much.
Okay, so that's all of my job situations that are happening.
Now onto school. I have decided to drop all of my classes today so that I don't have to worry about overloading myself with concern to drop them later. I hadn't dropped them as of yet because I was concerned about financial aid and me having to find a job to repay my loans. But, now that I've found a job that I intend on sticking with for a while, I feel comfortable with dropping everything and walking away without any kind of worries! With keeping my Saturday route, just working 2 weeks there will pay a monthly payment for my student loans, which is my incentive to keeping my Saturday route.
Okay, so school and work has been touched on.... Now lets talk about Claire.
I had a conference with Claire's homeroom teacher last week and it was quite eye opening. Her grades looked pretty good on paper, but well, that's not the entire case that's been going on. Claire has been withholding homework that she is to be taking home daily and return the day after. She claims to have forgotten to take the assignments home, however, these assignments added up to nearly 2 weeks worth of homework that were stored in her desk. This does not include the homework that she HAS brought home. She has been having a lot of behavioral problems in school and we need to nip them in the butt now.
On Halloween, Claire was sent home with a note from her Reading teacher in regards to Claire decided to write on the inside of someone's desk instead of participating in the reading that she was supposed to take part in. She took the person's marker and began writing within the desk. The teacher took recess away but I wasn't going to stop there! Claire had lied about having the note (or anything) in her book bag when she came home from school and when I decided to look through her book bag she quickly responded with "I got into trouble today." She went on to say that it was due to talking. I later read the letter and it stated that she had written in a desk during Reading. Man, was I ticked?! I think I was more angered by her lie than the actual act of doing the, what I consider, vandalizing of the desk. After I read the note, I wrote to the teacher, stating that Claire needs to be punished for what she did by cleaning all of the desks within the classroom and that loss of recess doesn't cut it! I asked Claire that evening, "When were you going to show me that note, since it needed to be signed?" She responded with "After we went Trick or Treating." Infuriated was an understatement at this point! I ended up dropping off the letter to her school directly because I did not trust that Claire would turn it in. Needless to say, she did not go Trick or Treating that night and stood in the corner for what would have been the time going trick or treating. So, yesterday she was kept after school to clean all of the desks within that classroom. Boy, she was an unhappy camper by this, but I told her perhaps next time she'll take this into consideration next time she thinks it's necessary to act badly in the classroom.
She has been punished for many acts of lying but we have worked on a new reward which will make her think twice about lying... This includes going to Sea World on her 10th birthday! She's in love with Dolphins and Orca's and additional to the fun, it's educational! So, we as a family sat down and spoke about what needs to be improved on, not only from her, but from us as parents and I wrote up a contract last night for both her and us as parents so that she sees what she has to work toward and so that we can stick to actually doing something about improving her lying and our reactions to them. So this house is going to be changing pretty rapidly and I think overall it's going to work out for the best. However, if Claire has one slip up, we're taking the trip away from her. In the meantime between now and the trip, she will have the opportunity to earn many other great things. Things really need to change here at the Eshenbaugh household because if it doesn't our communication level is going to be thrown down the crapper and that's not fair to any of us. The trust level has to be rebuilt and we need to show that we can confide in one another instead of have the constant fear of what will happen if things ARE shared.
Thankfully we have a great family member who is easy to talk to about things like this because she's been there and is also a teacher. These things have been very helpful. Plus I have a friend who is going through the same stages with her daughter(s) and we're able to discuss our horror stories and success stories too. With those people here to help, I know that we can work toward a successful future. Because face it, we're new at this and Claire is an only child who is easily manipulated by older kids so she's able to "fit in". We are going to work long and hard at making things work better for all of us.
With that being stated, Claire has been taken out of Swim and Tae Kwon Do so that we can take the time she would've been in the classes for her additional homework and study time. They have a website where she's able to test her skills and improve on them as needed. I think this will help improve her scores in school and also build her confidence levels within the classroom. Once she's back on track, she will go back into the extracurricular activities, but for now we need to work on improving her skills in the classroom. Her and I will take some time out to practice swimming, but on our own times, instead of scheduled times. With my Wednesday night/Thursday route, this is something we can manage in once she's done her homework.
Things are getting in order, and there's no better time than the present to make everything work out great for us as a family!
Alright, I think I've touched on every topic there is to touch on that I've left everyone out in the dark about.
Happy Tuesday everyone!
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